okay guys i know next to nobody will reblog this but please
if a family member has ever made a “harmless” comment (what have you done to your hair/what the hell are you wearing/etc) to you about your appearance and it hurt you, please reblog this, i need to show my mum and step dad the notes.
When you say you’re a feminist…I hope you really know what that means. It means standing up for women of color.
Standing by black women who must deal with being referred to as welfare queens or ratchet.
Being a feminist is standing beside immigrant women who deal with wage theft, unsafe working conditions, and being referred to as leaving anchor babies in America.
It means standing beside Native American women who face domestic violence and rape at unprecedented rates.
It means standing beside Muslim women who choose to live out their faith and face Islamaphobia, sexism and ignorance constantly.
It means standing beside Asian women who have been misrepresented in the media to be thought of as only submissive and quiet.
Please recognize that feminism impacts the lives of every single one of these groups…but we are all women
Anonymous said: Literally every single type of oppression bi people face is a side effect of homophobia. The only reason you people came up with 'monosexuals' in the first place is so you can express your hatred for lesbians in a way that looks 'progressive.'
Except that I don’t have a hatred for lesbians. I have a hatred for monosexual people (i.e., someone who experiences attraction to only one gender) who hold the monosexual experience as the only true one and use that belief to erase bisexuality from discussions and queer spaces, or even directly speak and act against bisexuals. Hey look! ^^
Every single type of oppression bi people face is not a side effect of homophobia. Let’s talk about words! Homophobia is used to describe bigotry against people who like the same gender. And of course there are many instances in which bi people do face homophobia because gay bashers don’t stop to ask if we also like another gender. If you look like you like the same gender, many times you will experience homophobia because the person attacking you assumes you’re homosexual. (This sounds so much like that one problem where someone assumes your sexual orientation based on the gender of your relationship…and i could swear that it comes from another word that starts with a b…hmm… ah yes!
Next word! Biphobia. Ah see now this is a different thing entirely. Biphobia manifests in people who upon learning your bisexual identity start down the fun road of things like “You’re gay/straight, but won’t admit it!” “Bisexuals are cheaters/promiscuous!” “You could be perceived as straight and so clearly don’t understand homophobia!” or my favorite “You people just hate lesbians!” (see what I did there? That’s just silly. Where in my bag of imaginary things will I find the recognition and social capital to hurt the entire population of lesbians one, and two why would I want to? Again, I don’t even hate lesbians. I hate when people (be they lesbian, gay, straight, or someone of a non binary gender identity who experiences monosexual attraction) pretend that we don’t live in a society which values one gender attraction and assimilation into hetero-patriarchal norms in order to avoid self evaluation and accountability within the queer community.I expect this shit from straight people but I tell you what it was a shock to discover upon coming out that the queer community I was hoping to find solace in was actually pretty set against my sexuality and only willing to sometimes acknowledge me if I was very very quiet about the things they were doing to undermine and exclude me.)
New Words! You people? Ohh yes. You are so right and neutral and logical. Not biased at all. Certainly not biphobic. Nah. You just completely ignore bi-specific oppression when it means having to examine your own behavior. But that’s okay because you’re just stopping people from pretending to have problems so they can look progressive. Clearly you have the right of it, oh great and wise anon. All bi people are just making this whole monosexism thing up. Despite the fact that monosexual attraction exists. Despite the fact that it carries more social weight and privilege than bisexual identities. Despite the fact that one could pretty easily figure out that this means monosexual people have the privilege and power to oppress bisexual people through their words and actions. Despite the fact that your very well thought out anon hate pretty much proves my point— We are all clearly just making things up to look cool. See how cool I look? I love using a conversation that inevitably alienates me from other marginalized identities because it calls out their shitty attitudes in order to gain friends and get progressive points. Is it working? Am I done being othered and called a liar yet?!
Get the fuck over yourself. I don’t understand why monosexism is the term on the chopping block. Like I said, you wouldn’t say “I can’t be racist! I’m gay!” because that’s just silly. Your oppression as a monosexual person doesn’t cease to exist because you have privilege in another area. It’s still valid. Your experience is still valid. However, pretending that you don’t have that privilege because somehow your other identity just negates it is intentionally harmful and ignorant. Knock it off.
Can I get an amen?
the reason male comic book fans work themselves into a frenzied rage over “fake geek girls" is because they think they can’t get a girlfriend because of their love for comic books (a.k.a nerdiness). if they accept that geek girls genuinely love comic books, then they’re left with the cold harsh reality that it’s not their nerdiness that makes them unattractive to women, but the fact that they are misogynistic condescending dickbags who need to be avoided AT ALL COSTS
Interesting how you’re still expected to be a human even if your into alt cultures.